I’ve seen this phrase FML on Facebook mostly.
Maybe you have, too.
It stands for: Fuck My Life.
Usually in conjunction with something that has gone crazily wrong, following a series of non-catastrophic misfortunes, disappointment or regret.
Here’s my issue with this phrase…
Inherent in there is complaining.
Yes, I know it’s not serious complaining, and it’s more of a joke, a way to commiserate, etc.
But you know what: it’s also total VICTIM mode.
Anyone who uses that is just (on some level) accepting the situation, and “that’s the way it is.”
I’m not saying that challenging stuff doesn’t happen, but I’d much rather take the CREATOR perspective and take charge in my life!
So, when things don’t turn out the way you like, I’d like to offer a NEW phrase:
Fuck My Plans!
(It just feels more fun and more empowering to say that, rather than FML, right? :)
Life throws something in your path you didn’t expect? FMP!
Some crazy awesome opportunity shows up? FMP!
It’s raining outside? You get sick? Car breaks down? FMP! FMP! FMP!
As a traveler, I know all to well what it’s like to have plans, only to see them cast aside because life had other ideas—or, because when I show up, I get an impulse and desire to do something different and I follow that! FMP!
Don’t just believe me. Here’s what a couple other people have said about this:
“Life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans.” ~ John Lennon
“If you want to make God laugh, tell her your plans.” ~ Woody Allen
Basically, what both of these guys are saying is FUCK MY PLANS!
Your life will happen regardless of how much planning you do.
Now, I do think it’s awesome to have direction and goals in your life, AND to be flexible enough to roll with whatever comes down the road.
This is the stuff I continue to work on myself. Nope, haven’t mastered it yet. :)
And finally, know that every now and then I, too, mutter complaints and frustrations; it’s only natural. We’re humans, and we create expectations.
It’s really about how long we hold onto those illusions that create stress and suffering in our lives.
Besides: if you’re going to broadcast a message to the world, would you rather it be that you’re a Victim (FML), just accepting your fate, or a Creator (FMP), ready to charge forward?
I know which one I choose! :)
Got something to say about Victim/Creator roles and FML vs. FMP?
I’d love to hear your response + any other thoughts you have below.
Looking forward to learning more!